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Dharmaraj Iyer

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 Dear Anjali,

I am sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes if we can simply change our way of thinking about life, we find that positive changes happen seemingly automatically.  Here are a few suggestions that you may find helpful.  

Ruby Bhushan

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Since you haven’t stated more specifics (e.g. your graduation subject), I am assuming you are not really looking for a specific answer. I think what you are asking is "How do I figure out the right job for me which also pays me well?" After all there are many parameters to a "satisfying" job. So maybe you can first start asking which of these parameters are important for you, and then state them in the order of importance. This gives one clarity in seeking the right job. Clarity allows one to seek rather than to take just what is given or available on campus. 

Dharmini Iyer

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Dear Urmila,
I certainly sympathize with you. Please remember to be patient with yourself. How often do we react negatively to something, and then instantly regret it? Often, just remembering to breath before before you react can add in an extra moment of self-control and keep you from regretting anything. You might also try making a practice of watching the feelings in your heart. Whenever you feel angry, check the heart. Perhaps it is contracted, or closed? Work to relax your heart. Swamiji goes into this in more detail in Lesson 4 of the course, The Importance of Right Attitude.

Dharmaraj Iyer

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Dear Sweta, 
It’s hard to answer this without more details, but I’ll try. It’s important to remember that your division manager has to support these two people who work under him. I don’t mean that he won’t listen to you, but he can’t easily overrule them, as it undermines their authority and morale. At the same time, it’s important for you to speak up for the truth as you see it. But how? 

Dharmaraj Iyer

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Dear S.B.,  
It sounds like you’ve been patient with him, and shown support in your conversations. Perhaps he thinks that, since his name is on the code, he is the only one doing the work? Does he not appreciate the other team members’ contributions? Also, have you tried praising him in front of the others?